I haven’t been watching the live feeds for a while so I’m really confused. Is it because people think he was the MVP?
A woman has the right to use contraceptives. There are condoms, spermicides, the Pill, diaphragms, tubal ligation… any number of methods of contraception. If a woman is raped, there is even the Morning After Pill.
I’m begging all women to choose to use contraceptive measures and to have sex responsibly, rather than allow themselves to become pregnant and then killing that new life-form. That is all.
From a former fetus who all the doctors said should have been aborted for my mother’s health and safety, and who they also predicted would not have survived anyway or would have debilitating birth defects and certainly would not be able to function normally in society. (I have an IQ of 140 and work as a Japanese translator and English editor.)
I’m going to reblog this keeping your comment - even though you made sure to erase all the comments before yours - because I’d like to respond with this:
My mother also had a dangerous pregnancy, and for a long time my parents debated having kids at all. That they chose to have me - chose - despite the risks, means that the pro-choice movement has done its job, because they had that choice to make. Remember, being pro-life isn’t about wanting to choose life; it’s about wanting to force every pregnant person to give birth, against their will or not.
But here’s the thing about your ridiculously offensive argument that just because your mother carried a dangerous pregnancy to term and you came out all right, and are able to score an arbitrary number on an arbitrary test, and therefore every woman should carry their pregnancy to term no matter what the circumstances: it’s only from your perspective. You don’t make any effort to think about what your mother went through, the terror she may have felt, the courage it took for her to risk her own life in order to bring you into this world. She didn’t just “choose not to kill” you - she actively chose to keep you, every day, knowing you could kill her and knowing you might have a short, painful, horrific life even if you survived, even if she survived. How can you make all these claims about the danger your mother was in while pregnant and not think for a moment about her agency? How can you make this argument and not sit back for a moment and think, “what if someone had said this to my mother while she was pregnant with me?”
Because let me tell you, if my mom had decided after becoming pregnant that the risks were too great, that she didn’t want this, and had aborted me? I would not exist - and that would be okay. And no amount of telling her she was a killer would have made her into one, because abortion is not murder.
No really, it isn’t. My mother was a wonderful woman, full of energy and love and intelligence and compassion. If she had made a different decision and not had a child, or had adopted a child instead, or later on had a different child after re-thinking the risks and going ahead anyway, she still would have been a wonderful woman. No, I would not have existed, but that would not have made my mother a killer; it would have made her a person who didn’t have a baby. How dare you reduce her - reduce anyone - into a simple binary of killer/not-killer by the decision she made about her pregnancy? For that matter, how dare you look at this argument and think, “the important thing here is for anyone who might become pregnant to know that their kid might score 140 on an IQ test, therefore abortion is wrong”?
And how fucking dare you dismiss the realities of rape and incest by saying that “there is even the Morning After Pill” without addressing the fact - fact, not feeling or opinion - that contraceptives and morning-after pills are difficult if not impossible for many women to obtain, especially women who have been raped or victimized? Are you really that ignorant? Do you honestly think that every woman lives near a pharmacy that will give them the medication (yes, it’s medication) that they need without invoking religious or moral objections? Do you really not understand that forcible pregnancy is a thing that men do to women all the fucking time? You beg women not to become killers but you don’t say a fucking word about the men who impregnate women against their will, who trick them or rape them or lie about their contraceptive use. You dismiss all of what happened before and you insist that the entire moral onus is on this pregnant person, who does not want to be pregnant. She can be a killer or she can be a not-killer, and that’s all you give her.
To my followers and anyone else who reads this: as one of those oh-so-underrepresented former fetuses, I am begging you to make the best decision for yourselves. I am begging you to block out the noises people like this make when they try to tell you what to do with your body, your life, your self. I am begging you to take as much information - information, not manipulative horseshit and propaganda - into account when deciding whether or not to remain pregnant. And I am begging you to tell anyone who has an opinion about you to go fuck themselves.
As a teacher, I give girls what I hope is a lot of attention. I don’t know if I give girls their fair share, but I aspire to, especially after noticing that boys are willing to use their greater share of teachers’ attention to get girls who they feel aren’t being quiet and docile enough punished. I have therefore acquired a reputation for “caring more about the girls.” This has had two marked results: Some straight boys have gotten more hostile toward me, and most girls have gotten more confident around me. This makes me think I’m doing something right.
Longer thoughts on how this phenomenon relates to sexual harassment in classrooms, if you’re interested: The girls figured out I won’t report them if they hit boys who are sexually harassing them, I’ll only report the boys. This led to an increase in how often girls got the last word and boys got smacked in my classes, and, also, to a DECREASE IN HOW OFTEN GIRLS GOT SEXUALLY HARASSED. The sexual harassers seem to have been depending on the sort of “equal blame” and “retaliation is never warranted” and “don’t hurt others’ feelings” perspectives so many schools try to instill in kids; the sexual harassers were usually the ones bringing me into the situation by saying, “Miss, she hit me! You should write her up!” Once they figured out I was only ever going to respond, “If you don’t treat girls like that, they won’t hit you,” the girls got more confident and the sexual harassers largely shut the fuck up.
In schools, fighting against sexual harassment is often punished exactly the same as, or more severely than, sexual harassment — a lot of discipline codes make no distinction between violence and violence in self-defence, and violence is ALWAYS the highest level of disciplinary infraction, whereas verbal sexual harassment rarely is. Sexual harassers, at least in the schools I’ve been in, rely heavily on GETTING GIRLS IN TROUBLE WITH HIGHER AUTHORITIES as a strategy of harassment — creating an external punishment that penalises girls for and therefore discourages girls from fighting back. Sexual harassers are willing to use their greater share of floorspace to ask to get girls who won’t date them punished. By and large, teachers do punish those girls when they swear or hit. Schools condition girls to ignore sexual harassment by punishing them when they speak up or fight back instead.
Once the sexual harassers in my classes understood that girls wouldn’t be punished for rejecting them, they backed off around me. And there started to be a flip in what conversations I get called into — girls are telling me when boys are being nasty (too loud and dominant), instead of boys telling me when girls are being uncooperative (louder and more dominant than boys think they should be).
reblogging again for the wonderful commentary.
Holy crud, so glad I read this. Reblogging for other educators.
As a girl who would not be shut up and would not tolerate teasing or abuse from boys in my class and was several times sent to such higher authorities for it, reading this is extremely, extremely vindicating. I was lucky, though, because being a particularly bright, advanced student for those grades, they generally took my side and I never got into any severe or lasting trouble. Again ,this was luck, and shouldn’t be the rule.
I was going to write that exact last paragraph; WOW.
I’m pretty sure my school’s attitude on violence (including sexual harassment cases) was even if you’re defending yourself you’re still in trouble because you probably did something to provoke the attack in the first place. And I know for a fact that my sister got in trouble for hitting a boy who harassed her and he got off free.
Religious scholar and author REZA ASLAN, during a rather antagonistic interview by a Fox “News” anchor who just couldn’t get over the fact that Aslan wrote a book on Jesus.
I know I’m late to this, but Christ, Fox News is an asshole.
So it’s no secret, I love Big Brother, as a former student of Psychology and reader of Orwell, I’ve grown to love the whole advent of the social experiment (Zimbardo & Milgram) as well as the nuances involved in human behaviour under surveillance, (conscious or otherwise). As some might already be…
Beautiful. Absolutely beautiful.
I’m eating skittles and drinking iced tea, while I’m clinging to Ahmed’s reading of Fanon and her analysis of the ways fear work: “The black body is ‘given back’ only insofar as it has been taken, stolen by the very hostility of the white gaze. For the black man, fear is felt as coldness; it…
William Beckett recently came out with the song Benny & Joon. I can now see where he got the inspiration for his vampire outfit in Fall Out Boy’s video for A Little Less Sixteen Candles, A Little More Touch Me.
Over forty years later:
((I will never not reblog this.))
with Ed. M, Ph.D Jackson Katz
I can’t believe that we aren’t allowed to sign up for them now because they’ve moved to the CBS website. When the feeds start, could someone please post an illegal link to free online streaming? Us Canadians have no other options now. :(
From what I’ve seen so far, many other BB Tumblr fans generally agree with me, so who are your favourites?